Stuck in Limbo
I myself am no stranger to the limbo club, actually I have probably
spent the good part of the last 10 years in limbo. Constantly stuck in some
strange transit stage living in temporary situations and the frustration
of not being able to lay down any solid foundations. For lack of a better
word I may now still be deemed a loyal member of the limbo club.
Yes, I am still in limbo mode, I don’t know which way my life is going
or even where I will be living in the not so distant future, not to
mention the whole career path. Most of my fellow thirty somethings
people would have a full-blown anxiety attack if they were in my
situation, as I do not score high on society’s success chart.
However, I refuse to give in to society’s made up expectations, I would
even go as far to say that I don’t really care at all what people may think of
my current status in life, and you shouldn’t either!
The truth is life is never simple and can surprise us with unpredicted
events which can lead you in a completely different direction, or even have you
restarting everything in your life from scratch. Job loss, bankruptcy, divorce
you name it, these are only but a few life crises that can cause a tsunami
effect on your life.
You may be thinking, what about those lucky people
who just seem to sail along ever so smoothly through life without having
any major setbacks or life changing moments. It is easy to fall into the trap
of feeling hard done to by the universe or whatever force you refer to for any
undesirable events and setbacks that dare to come your way.
What if I told you that having a major setback, hitting rock bottom or
feeling stuck can actually be the best thing that could happen to you in your
life. Take a moment to reflect on that, it may seem hard to swallow
or even barking mad. Have a little ponder on the idea that being in the lost
zone puts you on a path with unopened doors simply waiting to be opened
and tremendous opportunity for self-growth. The beauty in having your life
turned upside down is it gives you the chance to discover things about
yourself, re-invent yourself and create a life you never dreamt of before.
Now those people who seem to have no blips in their life may
not seem so lucky to you now, as they have never been thrown
into unknown territories. What a misfortune to miss the great
privilege of been stuck in limbo. For this is the place where
you are required to dig deep to your core and that is where you discover
strengths and untapped potential you never knew existed.
You may be wondering how to conquer the fears and anxiety that
can sometimes arise whilst being permanently stuck in the unknown about all
aspects of your life. Things may even appear to be getting
worse before they get better. The most practical way to remain in a
positive mindset is acceptance and real commitment in embracing the experience
you are currently in, even when you feel your being pulled backwards.
You need to drastically change your perspective on your current
situation, open your eyes and try to see things from a totally different
viewpoint. Easier said than done may be echoing in your head right
now, well it is time to switch that self-sabotaging noise off! The more you
feel uncomfortable about your situation and perceive it as negative then I hate
to tell you that you are just prolonging your current experience.
Let me give you a practical example of how easy it is to flip a
situation, let’s say you are currently living in a place that doesn’t
match your expectations. You may be living in a tiny apartment with ugly
furniture in an area that is not desirable for you, you could even be in a
different country from where you want to settle.
Every day you have two choices; you can wake up and focus on everything
you hate about the place you are living, or you can choose to accept this is
where you are and need to be at this moment to get to where you are
going and want to be.
When you step out your door, step out with the intention that
whoever you may meet has a story and can offer you unseen wisdom you
didn’t expect. The secret that I have learned is that there is always
more depth to people and places than meets the eye. Sometimes without even
being aware we snub people or places as being mediocre, when in fact they can
be the most interesting conversations you have and play an influential
role in the journey you are on.
In doing this you create an adventure every day, everything you encounter becomes
a piece of knowledge, inspiration or hidden opportunity that the majority
of people are blind to. You no longer see yourself in limbo mode, more of
a path of great discovery that will eventually lead you to your next chapter.
You start to be present in every moment and the things you want to
attract into your life, just show up at the perfect timing. Then you realize
there is no such thing as being in limbo, for everyday and every circumstance
is a calling for you to emerge as the best version of yourself.
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